(this is being posted a day early!)
Today is a great day in the history of the world. Today, May 4th, is Melissa Louise* Feil's BIRTHDAY (*small side note: not technically her middle name. When we were growing up, I felt bad that she didn't have a middle name so I gave her one)! She is one of the greatest people I've ever known and probably one of the greatest people who has ever lived. So, in honor of her birthday, this post is dedicated to some of my favorite memories and things about MELISSA!
|I think this is the first picture of us together-- not including class photos|
In 5th grade, Melissa and I were assigned to different teachers at Adelaide Elementary. I cried and begged and cried and my mom went and talked to the principal and explained to him that with 2 handicapped siblings, I had enough stress in my life and needed to be with my friend. So we got in the same class (however by 6th grade, we were in separate classes and my mom told me to deal with it). For a pretend ad presentation in that class, Melissa had her little brother Zach ride in on his skateboard while a Sheryl Crow song was playing. I thought that was the coolest idea (I still do). In 6th grade, the leader of our little group of friends decided that I couldn't be in the group anymore. She told all the other girls that they couldn't talk to or be friends with me. But Melissa didn't care, and she was friends with me anyway. That was a life saver for little ol' 6th grade me! And I think it was around this time that Zach asked me if I would marry him someday, and Melissa and I thought that wasn't a bad plan, because then I could be a real Hallows like I always dreamed! One day around this time, we were playing in our swimsuits in Melissa's backyard and a makeshift hammock was hanging in the tree, so we pulled the straps of our suits down and posed in the hammock so it would look like we were naked and we posed and had Chris take pictures (sorry, Ann! I know you're probably mortified!). We were so scandalous!!
We loved to swap toys and Melissa always had the best dolls. She let me borrow her Quints dolls and I think one of my mom's babysitting kids tore one of the doll's hair out. I was so upset and embarrassed and I made my mom buy a new set of Quints for Melissa and I kept the one that had no hair left (I still have it, too). We also loved to swap clothes, and it was great because we were the same size forever. I loved borrowing all her fancy shoes, especially the ones she bought in Europe while on the Euro trip in high school (I was so jealous that she was going with Annie and Kallie. I thought she would come back with all these inside jokes and inside experiences that I would get left out of. I needn't have worried, though :). Melissa has always been so giving, no matter what it is!
|Melissa and Matt Hawkes, circa 2002?|
|We've always been awesome. We were trying on clothes at Fred Meyer, 1999?|
I remember in high school the first time Melissa met Mark Feil. I think she even pointed him out to me in the hall and told me she thought he was cute and that she loved his hair (he did have awesome hair). And so, during an assembly when he was on stage, up front, playing the hell out of-- I think it was a saxophone--Melissa ran up and put a dollar in his pocket (it may even have been my dollar that I gave her for that specific purpose). And the rest is history!
|And it all started with a dollar... :)|
|Why did we crimp our hair so much?! and DANG we are hot!!|
I have never met a more generous and kind person in my life. I honestly can't remember a single instance of Melissa being mean to anyone. Whenever I talk to her, she's making something for someone or doing favors for someone because that's just the kind of person she is. She has done everyone's wedding flowers, bridesmaids dresses, wedding cakes, treats for showers and get-togethers, custom clothing... you name it, she'll do it, no matter what state you live in or how well she knows you or the cost! And as everyone knows, she is super crafty and creative. She has made me the cutest diaper bags, headbands, skirts for my girls, everything. I get compliments on all the amazing things she makes me all the time. I feel so lucky that I get to be a recipient for some of her amazing creativity!
When I got married in Washington with only 3 witnesses, Melissa didn't act upset at all- she simply offered her help for our party! And when we had the party, she drove up to Logan and stayed the whole time and helped serve cake and clean up and she did it all with a big smile. When I found out I was pregnant, Melissa was probably the 2nd person I told-- after my husband!
It has been so fun to grow up with Melissa and know that she knows everything about me-- all the good, the bad, and the ugly-- and she loves me anyway. She knows my faults, she knows my opinions and beliefs, and it hasn't changed the way she sees me at all. There were times years ago when I felt like because of the choices I had made that I was no longer accepted by anyone anywhere. Melissa was the exception to that. I felt better about myself knowing that she still loved me and cared about me and wanted to be my friend. Melissa really and truly shaped the person I am today, and I really like who I am today, so I owe her a big thank you! She has done more than she'll ever know and I can't thank her enough. I have been so lucky to have her as my ULTIMATE BEST FRIEND for 20 years, and I can't wait to see how the next 20 years shape our lives and our friendship.
I love you, Melissa! UBF 4eva! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
Lissa, hope I didn't embarrass you!!